Signs of Concern
- Not taking “No” for an answer
- Not respecting personal boundaries/invading personal space
- Pushing unwanted drinks
- Creeping around an intoxicated person
- Trying to separate a person from their friends
- Talking about having sex no matter what
Help Someone Else
Try the 3 D's - Distract, Delegate, Direct
Create a distraction
- Ask the person to go to bathroom with you.
- Take the person to get food or go dance.
- Spill a drink, so they are unable to consume more.
Delegate to get others involved
- Find an authority figure.
- Get a team captain.
- Get a club officer or bouncer.
- Gather friends to take charge.
- To the person attempting to do harm, say:
- “Leave them alone.”
- “Go away.”
- To the person who is at risk of harm:
- Ask “Are you okay?”
- Assess if the person knows what’s going on?
- Check if the person is able to give consent?
- (If you wouldn't let them drive, they probably can’t give consent.)
Say something to create space or time alone:
- "I have to use the bathroom."
- "I have my period."
- "I need to throw up."
- "My friend needs me/I can’t leave my friend."
Do something to get help:
- Text a friend to come get you.
- Text a friend to have them call to give you an interruption.
- Call Public Safety for an escort home.
- Track the UMatter or On-Demand Bus for a ride home
Signs a Sexual Assault May Have Occurred
- Unwanted sexual activity.
- Being too drunk to give consent.
- Not feeling safe to say “No.”
- Behaving out of character (change in eating & sleeping patterns, less social, more depressed or anxious).
- Wanting to drop out of school.
- Talking about suicide.
- Engaging in sexual acts with a highly intoxicated partner.
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